A divorce-assist divorce coach will listen without judgment, without saying whatever they think clients want to hear. Their only goal is to support clients by understanding, and in turn, helping them understand, what they need and want from the divorce proceedings, and why they need/want it. They will be able to help clients find alternative options that may be a better fit for what they need versus their initial, emotional, knee-jerk reaction. A divorce-assist divorce coach will help clients avoid the pitfalls of the divorce process, and help them make the best possible decisions for their future and the future of their children.

• If you are unsure if getting a divorce is the right thing for you.
• If you are getting divorced and need emotional support that your divorce lawyer can’t provide.
• If you need practical support your married friends and/or family can’t provide.
• If you need to talk things through with a professional who is objective and experienced.
• If your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence and self-image have taken a blow and you feel bewildered and lost.
• If your divorce has brought up lots of insecurities; leading you to drink too much, eat too much, sleep around too much
• If you want to feel heard, really heard, by someone that understands you, can help heal you and move you through the hurt and anger your divorce is placing on your life.
• If you are worried about how the divorce will impact your children.
• If you want to be clear-headed and decisive, avoid overwhelming and making your divorce quicker, cheaper and less painful.
• If you are having a high conflict divorce and want help to transform it, focus on harmony and moving forward, not on vengeance or greed.
• If you want a personal advocate, who will be by your side and tell you the truth (sometimes the painful truth) at all times.
• If you want to support being a single Mum or Dad for the first time.
• If you want help to map out your ideal future.
• If you want to take back control of your destiny and realise there is life after divorce.

 
Divorce is 80% emotional. While you might think that you will be capable of dealing with this emotional rollercoaster, don’t forget that you are now battling against someone who knows exactly how to push all your buttons.

Regardless of whether you instigated the separation or if you are on the receiving end of it, your mind and body are now officially tipped into Fight/Flight/Freeze, i.e. the Stress mode. Staying calm and thinking rationally will be a challenge.   The consequences of this level of intensity of stress will touch every aspect of your life: your sleep patterns, your physical and mental health, your eating/drinking habits, your confidence, your ability to think rationally and to make the right decisions.  

Working with a Divorce Coach will allow you to heal faster, to feel supported all along the process and will give you:   a roadmap shortcuts to avoid pitfalls/hurt and to heal faster strategies and techniques to help you stay sane, gain the clarity to make the right decisions and rebuild yourself as a single person. Bringing in a divorce coach from the very beginning, before even reaching the separation stage, can help clients work through the logistics and business of divorce, making it less overwhelming, less terrifying, and allowing them to put more energy and thought into how they and their spouse are going to reduce the negative impact on their family as much as possible.